Guidance for your Child

with Difficult Childhood Behaviours

Effective Parenting Skills Training to

Manage Difficult Childhood Behaviours at Home

Children with anxiety worry A LOT and try to avoid anxious situations A LOT too. To do that, they are going to involve their parents A LOT – all the time. Why? Because they trust their parents to keep them safe… and that often results in children having difficulties being independent. … and since they trust their parents to do the right thing, they are going to continue to rely on them.

SPACE (Supportive Parenting of Anxious Childhood Emotions) is a highly effective application of Nonviolent Resistance. It was developed at Yale University by Dr. Eli Lebowitz, based on the foundational framework of Nonviolent Resistance by Dr. Haim Omer (University of Tel Aviv).

I help parents who struggle to say “no” and have trouble managing their children’s problem behaviours. It is hard when you are constantly drawn into a power struggle.

Many parents struggle as you do. Despite being smart, excited to problem-solve, and deeply hardworking, parenting is hard. I get it, I am a parent too.

When parents first book an intake for one of the NVR / SPACE programs, they feel rushed and angry, pulled too much in every direction. They feel selfish, exhausted, and unappreciated. They feel hopeless and helpless as they have already tried everything they know unsuccessfully.

Parents often worry they are pushing their children away when they say no. They feel resigned to the needs of their children. What they want no longer matters as boundaries, and personal space are ignored.

Parents often feel shame or guilt whenever they say yes to something they don’t have the physical or emotional energy for, but they are afraid of letting their children down.

Their fear of saying no gets in the way of the life many parents want in so many ways. They make many adjustments and accommodations to help regulate their children’s behaviour, often failing as friends, sisters, daughters, or partners. And their confidence at work is tanking as parents often worry about their children’s behaviour a lot.

Before parents start one of the NVR / SPACE programs, they felt guilty for being frustrated and drained. Other people can be parents to their children freely; why can’t they? Many parents in the same situation are running on empty, and at their core, they’re suffering for it… and so is the relationship between the parents.

Like others, you deserve to put yourself first without worrying about letting down your family, friend, or boss. Together we can work on managing childhood behaviours – whether it is anxiety, picky eaters, or children with ADHD.

Book an intake appointment using the form on this page. You don’t have to put your own life on hold by accepting your children’s problem behaviour. I can help.


Chris de Feijter EdD.

Anxious behaviours result in other behaviours, too!

Many children deal with anxious behaviours every day, often resulting in difficulties with attachment, resisting change, self-destructive behaviours, and sometimes even addiction and violence.

SPACE teaches parents to recognize their child’s behaviours, their own interactions with their child’s behaviour, and to implement plans for reducing their child’s anxious or other (destructive) behaviours. It is fully research-based (read latest research). Since SPACE is a parent training, children do not attend any of the sessions. Parents maintain an empathic and supportive attitude towards their child while increasing parents’ ability to work cooperatively to reduce the child’s anxiety and increase support. Parents are taught skills that will continue to support and help their children.

Childhood behaviour difficulties in children is not just a one-person event. It’s an interpersonal event involving the child signalling their intentions to the parent and the parent picking up that signal and responding back to the child with fear, protection, or soothing.

Children who experience a lot of anxiety a lot of the time – meaning children with anxiety problems or anxiety disorders – they’re going to involve their parents a lot as well. And this can be really hard on the parents who may find their whole life being taken over by their child’s anxiety and the need to help them not feel anxious.

Dealing with difficult childhood behaviours at home can be quite powerful, especially when you think about how a parent’s anxious behaviours and worry can influence how their child responds to them or to situations. Therefore, one of the best approaches for dealing with anxiety and worry at home is to learn cutting-edge parenting strategies and to work on stress reduction through mindfulness at the same time.

Get Professional Assistance

Can you recognize yourself and your family in this? Is your family constantly making adjustments to schedules, cancelling social visits, limiting friends coming over, or even having to deal with a child sleeping in your bed most of the time? Or perhaps you are always having to ensure your child’s favourite foods are available in abundance to prevent meltdowns? And what if you are constantly having to help your child get organized and carry the burden of their lack of self-regulation that gets them in trouble?

Session Features

The sessions are offered as individual Skills training – psychoeducational – in which parents problem solve and learn to apply skills to help their child manage difficult behaviours. These sessions are not considered psychotherapy.