Guidance for Yourself

Getting through Difficult Times with Difficult Emotions

Managing Difficult Emotions

Simply surviving is not healthy, and it's not sustainable. It doesn't have to be this way.

It is very normal to feel intense emotions some of the time and to be confused about why you feel the way you do. We all experience emotions. Some emotions are more distressing than others and some have different ways of managing them. In addition, it is normal to feel misunderstood and confused about who you are some of the time, especially if you find that your emotions are intense, change quickly, or seem to be in control of your behaviour. 

Whatever it is that’s going on, perhaps your situation is leaving you anxious, depressed, discouraged, and maybe even a little hopeless at times. I imagine you’re here because you don’t want to feel this way anymore. You’re ready for something – anything, really – to change. Maybe someone encouraged you to reach out because they’re worried about you. Maybe you’re worried, too.

You want to feel at your best, be emotionally balanced, enjoy amazing relationships, and live a life of meaning and fulfillment.  Learning how to deal with painful emotions, increases the quality of your relationships, and increases the positives in your life.

The problem is that you may not have the skills to create those positive changes, which may lead you to feel frustrated and hopeless.  Everyone deserves to live with happiness and peace.

I understand how frustrated you may feel to not know how to cope with life challenges and build positives, which is why we have spent years learning the most effective techniques to help you deal with painful emotions and create the life you want to live.

Whether you are experiencing challenges with feeling confused about yourself, maintaining healthy relationships, and/or regulating emotions, dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT) can help you learn skills to manage these difficulties and build a life worth living.

Perhaps you’ve worked with someone before or are starting out for the very first time, I’m so glad you’re here. I’ll walk this journey with you from start to finish. Take a look around the site to see if anything resonates with you.

Complete the intake form below and book an intake appointment. You don’t have to put your own life on hold. I can help.

Chris de Feijter EdD.

Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) for Adults

Dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT) is a treatment developed by psychologist, Marsha Linehan. This therapy has been designed specifically to help clients cope with difficulties such as regulating intense emotions, anger, impulsiveness, among other problem behaviours. Much of what you will learn during DBT is ways in which you can manage and maintain a more positive outlook on life despite overwhelming circumstances.

During DBT Skills Training, participants learn skills that are essential for living a life worth living. These skills are applied to the participant’s own situation during individual therapy.

Skills training groups are held weekly in eight-week blocks. Each eight-week block includes the Mindfulness module (2 weeks) and one of the following modules: Distress Tolerance, Emotion Regulation, or Interpersonal Effectiveness, depending on the needs of the client. Clients commit to one full eight-week block (8 sessions) as a minimum.

DBT Mindfulness Sessions Only Option

Mindfulness-based stress management techniques have been proven effective in the treatment of stress- and anxiety-based disorders. Mindfulness is a powerful way of living that is accessible to anyone, regardless of your beliefs. A secular approach to mindfulness, DBT Mindfulness teaches people how to slow down and savour life and cultivate peace in relationships through a disciplined yet open awareness of the present moment. Ultimately people learn how to experience life more fully and learn not just to accept the reality of their experience but also change it for the real betterment of themselves and others around them by learning how to live in their daily lives instead of letting their lives run them.

Boiling down to what is most important is to realize we only have "just this one moment". That is all that exists. Nothing exists than just this one moment.

Dr. Marsha Linehan

Marsha Linehan then structured the exact skills that she was taught, and then she broke it down into specific behavioural steps, in other words, specific steps anyone can do. And that is what DBT Mindfulness skills are. If you put them all together again into one package, they become a mindfulness practice.

Mindfulness itself has an enormous number of positive outcomes, and the positive outcomes have to do with helping people have a sense of themselves more than they had before. Mindfulness also has research-proven biological effects, which is to say that they make you feel better physically.

Another fabulous value of mindfulness practice is that it helps you focus attention on things that are very important to you. You can attend to yourself when those things are important. You can focus on what it is that you need to do next.

Mindfulness sounds simple, but most people go through life with a tunnel vision-like experience. We generally tune out to our actual experiences and get distracted by thoughts of those occurrences. Most of us are so conditioned to engage with our thoughts rather than the present moment that we can easily lose sight of what is happening right in front of us.

DBT Professional Counselling

La Ronge Counselling provides individual DBT Skills Training, as well as DBT Skills Training in Group Format. The DBT Skills training includes worksheets, reflection exercises, as well as role-play activities and short presentations. Each session is 50 minutes (individual) or 90 minutes (group therapy). Attendance to all sessions within one block is required for treatment success.

Session Features

The course includes a Mindfulness reflection activity during each session. Participants combine practice, learning, and application in each session.

Registration & Participation Fee

The fee includes access to scheduled Zoom sessions. Additional content and assignment is provided in the learning management system when needed.